Defining debt moments



I remember exactly when I got serious about getting rid of debt: I was sitting on the kitchen counter in the condo my ex & I had, looking at a credit card statement that had come in the mail. I felt so overwhelmed; like I was never going to make any progress on it. Every month was the same thing; I’d scrape together enough money to send in a little bit more than the minimum, and then we’d go out and put even more back on the card. And every month I’d tell myself, well, next month will be better because ________. That day, I realized that “next month” wasn’t going to be any different. It was going to be more of the same thing, unless I did something different.

Different didn’t mean telling myself that I’d send more money next month because our car insurance would be paid up, because we wouldn’t have an “emergency” car breakdown, because our pets had already gotten their shots, because I’d get birthday money, because you name it. Different meant facing up to reality — we were spending more money than we earned, and that wasn’t going to change unless and until WE changed. Although it took me many years to get our credit cards paid off (and even longer to come to the realization that I didn’t want to owe any money to any one anywhere) that day was the beginning of the end: the end of owing money to credit card companies. My husband came to a similar realization, which I’ll share later.

If you’ve gotten out of debt, or are on the road to doing so, what were your defining debt moments? What got you to the “enough is enough” point? How did it change your life?

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Posted in Debt on Aug 22, 2007

4 Responses to “ Defining debt moments ”

  1. # 1 Clifford Says:

    When I was buried in debt, my defining moment to reach out was the night I became ill because I didn’t have enough money to pay all my bills. When I told a friend about being sick, she recommended I get a consolidation loan. I had no idea what a consolidation loan was. After she explained it to me, my credit union set me up with one. 18 months later, my credit card debt had completely vanished.

  2. # 2 JJ in Balt Says:

    I remember it well.
    I was looking at my credit card balances and I could not remember nor did I have any idea what I had charged to create a balance of 48K on 2 cards. To add salt to the wound, I realized that the interest charges on the two cards totaled more than my car payment.
    My first real budget started that day ( 4 years ago) and today I have ZERO credit card debt.

  3. # 3 ineffably Says:

    Mine came when I decided that I did not want to live with my in-laws the rest of my life…and I think my husband does! So, I am on my way to living a credit card debt free life so that I can buy a house on my own…without my husbands income!

  4. # 4 Moneymonk Says:

    You go ineffably!!

    easy credit is dangerous, once swipe can have you enslave for years. I also live a credit card free life.

    As one expert said ” the key is to tackle your troubles early enough, while they’re still only midly disturbing”

    Reconize the problem early and attack it !


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