How would you like it, if you are being scolded for coming to class five minutes late, when the next day the teacher himself was late because he preferred to go the café for a cup of morning tea? How would you like being ridiculed for using the phone in the office premises, whereas your boss in his personal cabin is misusing the office Wi-Fi to shop online for his wife? How would you like it, if your mother stops you from buying a laptop for college, but she herself just bought herself a really expensive jewelry set? How would you like it, if people are criticizing you for your actions, but they themselves don’t follow what they preach? Do you support “Do as I say, not as I do” philosophy?
Now put yourself in the shoes of a leader- a teacher, a boss or a parent. If you want people to follow you, work according to your leads, you have to inspire them with your commitment, by doing it yourself.
If you are the one to lead, people will gravitate towards your energy. They will listen to your every word, watch your every action, judging you, to make sure whether you are consistent with what you claim. If you indeed walk the talk, they will trust you- which is the most important factor to become a successful leader.
You are the one making the right decision. Never forget that. Develop an environment of healthy dialogue between your teammates, asking for their suggestions and opinions, so that they feel they are being taken for granted, and are an important part of the team. Sometimes you may receive valuable insights as well. Be confident in your choices. People will respect your decisions, even if it seems at first that they don’t. Eventually, a lot of people will come to you for advice and support.
If you are implementing new rules in the office, make sure you follow them too. If you don’t want anyone to use their phones, you should be able to not use yours as well. You can’t drive on authority, command your teammates, and expect efficient results. You want people to admire you, not fear you. Instead of telling them how it is done, show them how it is done.
It is all too human to make mistakes. Pointing out flaws and blaming others for their mistakes is a desk job. A leader doesn’t sit behind the desk and criticize; he gets onto the field and empowers his team. A leader has to take responsibility for his actions, as well as the actions of his team. Acknowledge failures and define failure as a part of growth. Wouldn’t you want to be excused for a mistake, instead of being fired for it? Be the leader you want your boss to be.
People may doubt what you say, but they would never doubt what you do.
Lead by example, not by force.